For a long time, I did not know how to handle constructive criticism without getting offended. I needed help taking the feedback and using it to self-grow. Instead, I would get insecure and view the comment as personal… For example, when I started my current job as an ice cream scooper, my trainer kept saying how I needed to scoop bigger and I wasn’t doing good enough. Looking back on this, I now know she was only trying to push me to do better at my job because it is necessary for the customers. It was never personal, but I took it that way. I hope that’s relatable for some people because getting offended at first is human nature; it comes with our built-in ego. But, once I got out of the mindset that everyone was out to get me and didn’t have my best interests at heart, I realized that constructive criticism comes from a place of care and could be beneficial for improving yourself. Constructive criticism exists everywhere, from work to school, sports, friendships/relationships, and so much more.
For example, sports. Sports center on teamwork, improving your skills and techniques, personal development, and building relationships with teammates and coaches. I want to emphasize “working as a team” and “building relationships with teammates and coaches.” (I understand certain sports, such as swimming or track, don’t require a team effort to “win,” but you are still on a team and working amongst many other people who want to see you improve). Here is my point: when you play your sport (whatever that may be) and make a mistake, your teammate might passionately tell you not to do that again and how to avoid it. From your perspective, their comment can come off as aggressive and personal… It’s not. Your teammates aren’t giving you feedback after your mistake because they want to attack your character; it’s in the moment pointing out what you did wrong and how you can fix it so it won’t happen again. Advice like this is meant to motivate you to work harder to help you avoid making the same mistake twice and improve.
One form of constructive criticism I believe to be VERY important is within relationships and friendships. It plays a crucial role in fostering mutual growth and understanding. When communicated effectively, feedback can strengthen bonds and deepen connections. It’s critical to approach constructive criticism with empathy and thoughtfulness, understanding that the goal is to support each other’s personal development. When a friend or partner offers constructive criticism, it reflects their investment in the relationship and desire to see positive growth. By openly receiving and processing feedback, we demonstrate respect for the other person’s perspective and a commitment to improving the relationship.
But remember, providing constructive criticism in relationships requires sensitivity. Communicating with kindness and clarity is essential, as well as ensuring the feedback is constructive and aimed at helping the relationship rather than inflicting harm. When both parties approach feedback from a place of understanding and genuine care, it can pave the way for a stronger, more resilient connection. Ultimately, embracing constructive criticism in relationships and friendships can enhance communication, increase trust, and create a more profound sense of mutual support. It’s an ongoing process that requires patience and understanding, but personal and relationship growth rewards are fulfilling.
When someone gives you constructive criticism, they are not saying you are a terrible person (obviously, I know there is a difference between constructive criticism and unnecessary rude comments, so still be aware of that); they tell you how you can be better. It’s not always intentional, nor is it meant to be hurtful. I like to remember that the people who try to advise me when I am doing something wrong place value and importance on me. Also, they see the potential you have to become a more outstanding person. When you can finally see past your ego and accept other people’s opinions on what you could do better, you’ll see the room you have to grow as an individual. Accepting constructive criticism can be challenging, but it’s an essential skill for personal and professional growth. It’s important to remind ourselves that feedback from others can provide valuable insights that we might not see on our own. We open ourselves up to continuous improvement and development when we embrace constructive criticism. It’s all about shifting our perspective and understanding that feedback is not a personal attack but an opportunity to learn and grow. Being open to feedback shows that we are willing to evolve and become the best version of ourselves.
Remember you are not alone. Surrounding yourself with supportive people who love you is where you want to be. If you are in need of immediate attention please seek help.
For mental Health Resources and Support: 988lifeline.org (The National Suicide and Crisis Lifeline).
